The Joy of Solitude (and Why Its Great to Be Alone at Times)

The Joy of Solitude (and Why It’s Great to Be Alone at Times) What happens wh?n you f??l ?v?r?tr?t?h?d? When it ???m? lik? th? world i? weighing d?wn ?n ??u, ?r ??u ?r? just tir?d ?f th? d??’? fr?nz??You t?k? a m?m?nt t? yourself, wh?r? it’? ju?t ??u ?nd ??ur th?ught?.This m?m?nt h?l?? ??u to t?k? ??ur mind off th? ?r???ur?? ?f the d?? ?nd just relax.In thi? moment, you ?r? ?nj??ing what is called ??litud?.In ?ur world t?d??, w? live in a f??t ????d ?nvir?nm?nt wh?r? thing? ?r? d?n? ?ui?kly, m??tl? with the ?id of t??hn?l?g? though, and you are expected to deliver outstanding results in a very short time.W? ?ll need a littl? alone tim? to unwind ?nd restore our mind ?nd b?d?, w? n??d solitude.Solitude i? d?fin?d ?? th? ?t?t? ?r ?u?lit? ?f b?ing alone fr?m ?th?r?.It involves taking time f?r ??ur??lf, ?nd ?nj??ing th? ????? ?f being in your own ??m??n? wh?r? you g?t t? think deep ?nd ?r??tiv?l?.When ??u f??l stressed ?ut ?r ?v?r l??d?d, ?ith?r fr?m w?rk ?r ?th?r ??tiviti?? of the day, w? t?nd t? ?v?rr???t t? the ?light??t provocation.For inst ance, when you are having a b?d day or f??ling ?v?rwh?lm?d with work. Think of h?w ??u will react t? th? ?light??t ?r?v???ti?n. Y?u would m??t likely r???t irr?ti?n?ll? b???u?? you feel ?git?t?d and h?v? n?t h?d any tim? to yourself.Some ???u??ti?n? require ??litud?.J?b? where ??u h?v? to think ?r??tiv?l? r??uir? ??litud? for ??u to be ?r?du?tiv?.Writ?r? m??t often writ? in ??litud? b???u?? it is in ??litud? that im?gin?ti?ns are ?t it? ???k. Ev?n writing thi? ?rti?l? h?d me seeking ??litud? t? ?ll?w m? ?r??tivit? fl?w.Music ??m????r?, ?dit?r?, analysts, ?r?gr?mm?r? and a l?t ?f ?th?r ??r??r? d?m?nd th?t ??u live a lif? of ??litud?. Solitude ?ll?w? u? t? refresh ?ur mind? ?nd g?t in t?u?h with ourselves.If you ?r? ?n introvert, you ?lr??d? kn?w th? f??ling of solitude but ??u ?r?b?bl? didn’t kn?w its b?n?fit?.Irr?????tiv? of ??ur nature, introvert ?r ?xtr?v?rt, everyone n??d? that ?l?n? tim? and can b?n?fit fr?m ??litud?.DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SOLITUDE AND LONELINESS A l?t ?f ????l? t ?nd t? ??nfu?? solitude with l?n?lin???. They may seem similar, ?in?? b?th ?r? characterized by b?ing ?l?n?, but th?? diff?r in h?w th?? refer t? the j?? or pain ?f b?ing ?l?n?.L?n?lin??? ??n be d?fin?d ?? a ??m?l?x ?nd un?l????nt emotional response t? i??l?ti?n or l??k ?f ??m??ni?n?hi?.Here, un?l????nt is th? key w?rd.Solitude on the other hand is the same, except that this time, it’s the opposite of “painful”. You get relief in solitude.H?nn?h Arendt clearly ?x?l?in? th? diff?r?n?? between solitude ?nd l?n?lin??? in her b??k, Th? Origins ?f T?t?lit?ri?ni?m. She ????:“The lonely m?n find? himself ?urr?und?d b? others with wh?m h? cannot ??t?bli?h ??nt??t or t? wh??? h??tilit? he is exposed. Th? ??lit?r? man, on th? ??ntr?r?, i? ?l?n? ?nd th?r?f?r? can be t?g?th?r with him??lf. In ??litud?, ?n th? ??ntr?r?, I am by myself, together with m???lf, and therefore tw?-in-?n?, wh?r??? in l?n?lin??? I ?m ??tu?ll? ?n?, deserted b? all others. All thinking, ?tri?tl? ????king, i? done in ??litud? ?nd i? a di?l?gu? ?f th?ught.”I. Solitude Is Adventurous, Loneliness Is NotBeing alone t?k?? ??u on an ?dv?ntur? in ??ur mind. Y?u therefore ?h???? how ??u respond t? it b? ??ur ?ttitud?.In K?ith Harrrell’s b??k, Attitud? i? Ev?r?thing, h? states th?t even though your attitude i? ??ur “m??t priceless ???????i?n”, ??u have t? d?v?l?? it b? t?king r????n?ibilit? ?nd “m?nit?ring your int?rn?l di?l?gu? to stay ???itiv? even in the m??t ?h?ll?nging tim??”.That’s it!Th? thin lin? that diff?r?nti?t?? ??litud? and l?n?lin??? i? ??ur attitude.Th? w?? you reason ?nd react t? ??ur ?nvir?nm?nt.L?t m? ??int a ???n?ri?: I am alone in my house, my r??mm?t? just l?ft t?wn f?r th? w??k?nd with her parents. There’s no ?n? ?r?und ?? I ?t?rt to f??l ??d, wishing I had ??m??n? to t?lk t? ?r w?t?h the l?t??t ??i??d? of Th? H?ndm?id’? Tale with.At thi? ??int, the f??ling of l?n?lin??? creeps in ?nd slowly turn? into d??r???i?n.You ?n th? other h?nd, in this same ?itu?ti?n, ar e not bothered b? ?t??ing ?l?n?.In f??t you ?r? happy with ??ur ??litud? ?nd inv??t in ??ur mind. Y?u l?t ??ur ?r??tivit? pour b? ?ith?r writing, ?inging, coking or ?v?n d???r?ting.In thi? case, ??u h?v? ?h???n to t?k? th? ???itiv? r?ut? ?f being ?l?n?.A? th?? say, if you ??nn?t be h???? in ??ur own ??m??n?, then you ??n’t r??ll? be h???? in the company of others.This only ??int? ?ut to th? fact th?t if ??u ??nn?t ???r??i?t? yourself and enjoy your ?wn company, you ?h?uld n?t ?x???t others t? do ??.II. Loneliness Is Painful And Sad, Solitude Is NotLoneliness is a n?g?tiv? ?nd painful state of b?ing ?l?n?. It giv?? one th? f??ling ?f depression when l?ft ?l?n?.In th?ir minds, th?? have b??n cut ?ff from ????l? so they f??l rejected, unimportant, ?x?lud?d or unnoticed.“L?n?lin??? ?x?r????? the pain ?f being ?l?n? and ??litud? ?x?r????? the gl?r? ?f being alone.”Paul Tilli?hWhen you ?r? l?n?l?, ??u feel isolated from th? w?rld, like th? wh?l? w?rld i? g?ing ?n with?ut ??u.Y?u f?? l th?r?’? ??m?thing mi??ing in ??ur lif?.Y?u have ??m?thing in your mind th?t ??u want to ?h?r? but h?v? no ?n? t? ?h?r? it with so ??u feel like th? w?rld h?? d???rt?d ??u.Th?t’? th? feeling ?f l?n?lin???. It m?k?? u? f??l in??m?l?t?.Y?u ??n b? in th? ?r???n?? ?f ????l? but ?till f??l lonely.W? mu?t h?v? ?x??ri?n??d thi? one w?? or th? other when ??u ?r? with ????l?, ??? a gathering, and ??u don’t seem to ??nn??t w?ll with others, so ??u r???il and watch others mingle ?nd think t? yourself, “they ?r?b?bl? d?n’t w?nt m? h?r? th?t’? wh? I’m b?ing ign?r?d”, ?r “I’m diff?r?nt fr?m th?m ?? th?? ??n’t ?????t m?”.Y?u see wh?t ??u are doing right h?r??Y?u are creating that n?g?tiv? ?n?rg? and feeling ?f l?n?lin???.It may b? a normal thing b???u?? hey, we ?r? hum?n? and w? h?v? feelings, ?nd n??d t? f??l l?v?d ?r ?????t?d, but wh?t if you turn th?t negative feeling int? a positive one wh?r? ??u d?n’t h?v? to f??l depressed fr?m being ?l?n? ?nd in?t??d r?v?l in ??ur ?l?n?n???.III. Loneliness Is Depressing, Solitude Is NotIn ??litud?, w? are happy with ourselves and ??tu?ll? enjoy ju?t b?ing ?l?n?. It allow us t? r?fl??t ?n ourselves, f?mil?, fri?nd?, life, and ?v?n th? futur?.Also in this ?t?t?, ?ur mind? g?in? ?tr?ngth and learns t? lean on itself.However, when lonely, w? f??l unh???? ?nd in??m?l?t?, like there is a v?id th?t should b? filled b? someone ?l??.Oft?n tim??, w? tend t? ?lign b?ing ?ingl? with l?n?lin???, thinking th?t a person is l?n?l? b???u?? h? or she i? single, which i? n?t n??????ril? th? case.A single ??r??n i? ?l?n?, n?t l?n?l?.In f??t, r????r?h ?h?w? that ??m? ?ingl? people are more ??nt?nt, ???i?bl?, self-sufficient ?nd fulfilled th?n ????l? in r?l?ti?n?hi??.S?m? people ?h???? t? r?m?in ?ingl? ?nd ??m? even ?h???? to isolate themselves, hence tagged ‘loners’ by others. Th??? “l?n?r?” m?? ??tu?ll? b? r?v?ling in their ??litud? ?nd m?king m??t of their ?l?n? tim?.Oft?ntim??, l?n?r? are wh? th?? ?r? b???u?? they hav e been l?t d?wn b? ????l? who th?? ?ut their trust in ?v?r ?nd ?v?r again, thus th?? have d??id?d to tru?t ?nl? themselves ?nd liv? in ??litud?.Many people g? int? relationships ju?t because ?f the f??r ?f b?ing alone. They br??k up fr?m a relationship and one week l?t?r, they are in a n?w ?n?.Even in that one w??k ?f b?ing ?ingl?, th?? ?r? so d????r?t? f?r ??m??ni?n?hi? th?t th?? d?n’t l??k b?f?r? th?? leap.Such people ?r?b?bl? d?n’t kn?w th? joys ?f ??litud? and have n?t und?r?t??d the ????n?? ?f being alone.A???rding to ????h?l?gi?t, N??l Burt?n, l?n?lin??? i? the m?nif??t?ti?n ?f th? ??nfli?t between ?ur d??ir? f?r meaning and the ?b??n?? ?f meaning fr?m th? univ?r??.H? also ?t?t?? th?t l?n?lin??? i? ??rt and ??r??l ?f th? human condition ?nd unl??? a person is resolved, it will ?lw??? r??urf???.That i? to ??? that ????l? wh? feel in??m?l?t? wh?n ?l?n? will ?lw??? h?v? that fear ?f l?n?lin??? unl??? th?? change th?ir attitude t?w?rd? ?l?n?n??? ?nd ??nditi?n their mind? t? ?? ?itiv?l? ??kn?wl?dg? ??litud?.IV. Solitude Gives Us A Sense Of Self-Awareness And Feeling Of Rejuvenation, Loneliness Does NotAn?th?r diff?r?n?? b?tw??n solitude ?nd l?n?lin??? i? that whil? solitude giv?? u? a ??n?? ?f ??lf-?w?r?n??? ?nd f??ling of r?juv?n?ti?n, l?n?lin??? f??l? lik? punishment and gives u? a ??n?? of d?fi?i?n?? ?nd in?d??u???.In solitude, w? f??l lik? w? can conquer th? world.It awakens ?ur creativity and gives us fr??h in?ight and und?r?t?nding ?f i??u??.Thi? i? wh? people like to h?v? a quiet m?m?nt to th?m??lv?? before the ru?h of th? day, so that they can reflect and ??? the potentials ?f the d??, ?? t? ???.W? find joy in going within and ??nn??ting t? ?ur mind?, ju?t thinking of th? v?ri?u? ????ibiliti?? th?t lie ?h??d.S?litud? ?x??nd? ??ur horizon as you ?r? ?bl? t? ??? beyond th? ?v?r?g? mind.Writ?r, P?tri?i? Highsmith says, “My im?gin?ti?n functions better wh?n I d?n’t h?v? to speak t? ????l?.”This ?h?w? th?t in solitude, your mind w?rk? at a faster pace th?n wh?n ?urr?und?d b? ????l?.L?n?lin???, ?n the other h?nd, m?k?? ??u f??l lik? th? w?rld i? ?r??hing ?t ??ur f??t. It l??v?? ??u with a sense of dejection, like ??u have b??n cast ?ut from the ???i?t?.Y?u feel lik? ??u ?r? n?t u? t? th? “?t?nd?rd” ?r ??u l??k something th?t will m?k? ??u t? be lik? ?v?r? other ??r??n.S?m?tim?? ??u might even f??l lik? ??ur l?n?lin??? i? a f?rm ?f ?uni?hm?nt for your in?d??u???.But thi? i? ?ll in ??ur h??d really.If ??u begin t? relish ??ur ?l?n? tim? ?nd convert ?ll your n?g?tiv? th?ught? to ???itiv? thinking, ??u will ??? th? im???t of ??litud?. In military settings ?r ?ri??n?, ??lit?r? confinement i? given ?? ?uni?hm?nt.V. Solitude Is A Choice, Loneliness Is NotAn?th?r important f??t?r th?t distinguishes ??litud? fr?m l?n?lin??? i? th? f??t th?t ??litud? is a ?h?i??.I ?h???? to b? in ??litud? b???u?? I want to rejuvenate and grow.Loneliness h?w?v?r, is im????d ?nd weighs a ??r??n d?wn. It d??l?t?? us ?nd m?k?? u? feel lik? a w??t? of ? ???? ?r invisible.S?m?tim??, loneliness ??nn?t ?v?n be resolved b? ??m??n?. When loneliness creeps in, you feel di???nn??t?d n?t ju?t fr?m ????l?, but from ??ur ?wn self. B???u?? ??u did n?t ?h???? t? b? ?l?n?, ??u cannot manage yourself to function ?r???rl?.S? wh?r??? solitude brings j??, l?n?lin??? bring? unhappiness.L?n?lin??? is v?r? damaging. It ??uld l??d to ??lf-l??thing, self-rejection ?nd desolation.Lonely people t?nd t? ??t and drink more, w?rk ?ut ?nd ?l??? l???.According t? research, they are at a higher ri?k of d?v?l??ing ????h?l?gi??l ?r?bl?m? ?u?h ?? ?l??h?li?m, depression, and ????h??i?, ?nd physical ailments ?u?h as inf??ti?ns, ??n??r, ?nd ??rdi?v???ul?r di?????.THE BATTLE AGAINST BEING IN SOLITUDEF?r m?n? ?f u?, th? idea ?f being ?l?n? conjures u? a sense of dread.M??b? it’? th? ??n?? ?f b?r?d?m, or th? f??ling? ?f isolation, ?r being f?r??d to confront ?ur ?wn th?ught?.In fact, a recent study in th? j?urn?l Science ?h?w?d that people w?uld rather giv? themselves ?l??tri? shocks than b? alone with their th?ught? f?r ju?t 15 minut??.But turn? ?ut, there’s a difference b?tw??n b?ing alone and feeling lonely.Ev?n th?ugh w? may use th? ?hr???? int?r?h?ng??bl? in ??nv?r??ti?n, ????h?th?r??i?t ?nd HuffP??t blogger R??? R???nb?rg, wh? also ?uth?r?d The Hum?n Magnet S?ndr?m?: Why We L?v? People Wh? Hurt U?, explains th?t th??’r? ??tu?ll? tw? distinct ??n???t?.Th? m?in distinguisher: B?ing ?l?n? is a physical description (meaning when we ?r? alone, w? ?r? ju?t not with ????l?), while l?n?lin??? is a f??ling th?t often i? ?x??ri?n??d as n?g?tiv? ?nd ??inful ?nd u?u?ll? ??m?? fr?m within. “Y?u can b? ?l?n? and h????, you ??n be alone and l?n?l?,” R???nb?rg explains. “The id?? ?f b?ing alone i? wh?t you make ?f it.”M?n? people wh? ?truggl? with f??ling? of l?n?lin??? ??n link th?ir struggles t? deeper r??t?.A???rding t? R???nb?rg, l?n?lin??? i? a f??ling fu?ll?d b? tr?um?, l??? ?nd gri?f, a l??k of ??lf-??t??m, ?nd in???urit?.Those wh? l??d h??lth?, balanced lives are better ??ui???d to face th??? n?g?tiv? ?x??ri?n??? because they have b?th internal ?nd ?xt?rn?l r???ur??? th?t help guid? th?m thr?ugh th? process â€" fr?m a sense ?f ??mmunit? t? a ?tr?ng ?nd positive ??lf-??n???t.“Loneliness is a normal ??rt ?f th? hum?n ?xi?t?n??,” Rosenberg ????. “W? ?ll feel l?n?l?, but ?hr?ni?, ??th?l?gi??l l?n?lin??? is a deeply embedded pattern th?t i? self-reinforcing. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. H??lth?, r??ili?nt ????l? respond t? normal l?n?lin??? b? r???lving it. Unh??lth? people b???m? overwhelmed by it.”P?r??n?lit? t??? i? ?l?? a big f??t?r wh?n it ??m?? t? wh? ?x??ri?n??? di???mf?rt fr?m b?ing ?l?n?.Intr?v?rt? â€" wh? l??? ?n?rg? from b?ing ?r?und ?th?r? â€" may find ?l?n? tim? more d??ir?bl? than ?xtr?v?rt?, wh? instead g?in ?n?rg? from the ??m??n? ?f ?th?r?.“If ??u’r? ?n extrovert, ??u ?r? ??mf?rt?bl? ?nd feel compelled to b? around other ????l?. It is just the w?? you are g?n?ti??ll? ??t up. If ??u†™r? an ?xtr?v?rt and you’re not ?r?und ????l?, ??u f??l un??mf?rt?bl? and if ??u’r? psychologically healthy, ??u use internal ?nd external resources t? b? ?r?und people,” R???nb?rg ?x?l?in?.“If ??u’r? ?n intr?v?rt ?nd ??u lik? being ?l?n?, th?t’? ?l?? ??m?l?t?l? ????h?l?gi??ll? healthy. You ??n be very ???ur? ?nd ??lf-??nfid?nt ?nd ?till b? very n?rv?u? ?r?und crowds of ????l?, but ??u h?v? fri?nd? ?nd l?v?d ones, ?nd th??? ?r? th? resources that make ?n introvert f??l just fin? wh?n th??’r? alone.”At th? end of the d??, wh?th?r ??u’r? an intr?v?rt or ?n extrovert, ?ll hum?n? ?x??ri?n?? f??ling? ?f loneliness.M?n? d? ?? during th? times th?? are physically ?l?n?, notwithstanding, it doesn’t h?v? t? b? that w??.WHY DO WE NEED SOLITUDE ONCE IN A WHILE? 1. Solitude Increases ProductivityPeople w?rk b?tt?r in th?ir ?l?n? tim?. Wh?n w? are alone, w? can ??n??ntr?t? more ?nd think.Basically, if ??u h?v? ??m??n? t?lling you a ?t?r? whil? you ?r? trying t? w?rk, b??i??ll ?, ??u ??nn?t ??? full ?tt?nti?n t? ??ur work.At b??t ??u’d multit??k.Alth?ugh ?? m?n? offices h?v? started ?r??ting open fl??r ?l?n? so ?v?r??n? can ??mmuni??t? m?r? ???il?, ?tudi?? ?h?w being ?urr?und?d by ????l? kill? ?r?du?tivit?.People ??rf?rm b?tt?r wh?n th?? h?v? a littl? ?riv???.2. Creativity And Efficiency Need Solitude To ThriveS?litud? gives us ??rmi??i?n t? ?ui?t ?ur mind and ?r??t? ????? for fresh in?ight? t? blossom. W?n??d ??litud? t? ??lv? ?r?bl?m?, find answers, ?nd l?t new discoveries emerge.Cr??tiv? in?ight? m?? ??m? slowly ?r ?? a sudden burst, but ?ui?t contemplation i? wh?t br??d? curiosity.Wh?n we ?r? ?l?n? w? ??n discover wh?t makes u? f??l alive; we engage in ??tiviti?? that bring u? j??, ?nd we ??n imm?r?? ?ur??lv?? in th??? activities with?ut distraction.Fr??d?m fr?m di?tr??ti?n clears the mind and ?ll?w? th? br?in a chance to r???t ?nd re-focus.Even the boredom which ?ft?n ??m?? with ??litud? contributes to th? ?r??tiv? ?r?????. If we do not h?v? ?m?t? time, there i? n? ????? f?r in??ir?ti?n t? ??m? thr?ugh.A? mu?h as we tr? to ?v?id boredom, ?itting with it has a purpose, ?? author Ch?r?l Strayed states, “Th? u??l??? d??? will ?dd u? to ??m?thing….th??? thing? ?r? ??u’r? b???ming.”We ?r? ?nl? b?red wh?n we do n?t kn?w ?ur??lv??, we ?r? w?iting for ??m?thing, ?nd if w? k??? waiting, w? will di???v?r it.T?k? for example the r????r?h ?f R??d L?r??n, professor of hum?n d?v?l??m?nt ?nd family studies ?t th? University of Illin?i? ?t Urb?n?-Ch?m??ign, wh? h?? studied th? ?ff??t? solitude h?? ?n the development ?nd l?ng-t?rm well-being ?f t??n? ?nd ?d?l????nt?.H? f?und th?t whil? b?ing ?l?n? i? “n?t a particularly happy state” in th? m?m?nt, it n?n?th?l??? h?? what Larson ??ll? a “kind ?f a r?b?und ?ff??t. It’? kind ?f lik? a bitt?r m?di?in?,” he ????, ?r??ting m?r? ???itiv? emotions and l??? ??lf-r???rt?d d??r???i?n d?wn the lin?.3. Self-Healing Through MeditationOf course, m?dit?ti?n i? ????ibl? only in a ?ui?t, peac eful ?nvir?nm?nt, ?nd ?u?h an ?nvir?nm?nt ??n b? ??hi?v?d ?nl? in solitude.M?dit?ting whil? ??u ?r? in solitude i? lik? ?h??ting many bird? with ?n? stone: you g?in ?ll th? previous b?n?fit?, while you ?r? ?l?? ?bl? to ?x??ri?n?? self-healingâ€"the r??ult? of studies h?v? shown that r?gul?r meditation b???t? th? body’s levels of “?nti-?tr??? h?rm?n??” lik? dopamine, ??r?t?nin, m?l?t?nin, GAB? ?nd DHEA, ?nd thereby enhances th? body’s immunit? t? di?????? ?nd ?????it? t? h??l.4. Alone Time Can Enhance The Quality Of Your Relationships With OthersBy ???nding tim? with yourself and g?ining a better und?r?t?nding ?f who you ?r? ?nd what ??u desire in life, ??u’r? m?r? likely t? make b?tt?r choices about wh? and wh?t ??u want t? b? around.You ?l?? m?? ??m? to ???r??i?t? ??ur r?l?ti?n?hi?? m?r? ?ft?r you’ve ???nt ??m? tim? ?l?n?.5. Better MemoryThe r??ult? of some studies th?t were ??r?full? d??ign?d t? t??t the effects ?f solitude ?n memory r?t?nti?n indi??t? ???itiv? ?nh?n?i ng ?ff??t? on m?m?r?.In H?rv?rd, for example, th? results of a ?tud? ??ndu?t?d b? graduate ?tud?nt B?th?n? Burum, ?t?rt?d with a ?im?l? ?x??rim?nt: Burum placed tw? individuals in a room ?nd h?d th?m spend a few minut?? g?tting to know ???h ?th?r.They th?n sat b??k to b??k, ???h f??ing a ??m?ut?r ??r??n th? ?th?r ??uld n?t see. In some cases they w?r? told th??’d both b? d?ing th? ??m? t??k, in ?th?r cases th?? w?r? t?ld they’d b? doing diff?r?nt things.The ??m?ut?r ??r??n ??r?ll?d thr?ugh a ??t of drawings ?f ??mm?n ?bj??t?, ?u?h ?? a guitar, a clock, and a l?g.A f?w d??? later the ??rti?i??nt? returned ?nd w?r? ??k?d t? recall whi?h dr?wing? th??’d b??n ?h?wn.Burum found th?t the participants who had b??n t?ld th? ??r??n behind them w?? d?ing a diff?r?nt task â€" namely, identifying ??und? rather th?n l??king at ?i?tur?? â€" did a better job ?f remembering th? pictures.In ?th?r w?rd?, they f?rm?d m?r? ??lid memories wh?n th?? b?li?v?d th?? w?r? th? ?nl? ?n?? d?ing th? t??k.I n ?th?r words, Bethany Burum ?h?w?d th?t when people know th?t th?? ?r? the ?nl? ones doing ??rt?in t??k?, th?? r?m?mb?r thing? b?tt?r th?n those wh? w?r? told th?? were merely du?li??ting th? t??k? ?f others.In f??t, most g?niu??? ?nd r?n?wn?d mu?i??l prodigies, ?rti?t? ?nd writ?r? valued th?ir ??litud? almost t? a f?ultâ€"??litud? allowed th?m t? focus ?nd r?g?rd th?ir ?r?ft ?? ??ri?u?l? as if th?? w?r? the only ?n?? in the w?rld wh? ?r? h?ving ?t it.6. Cultivates Self-LoveWe feel l?n?l? when w? ?r? not und?r?t??d b? others, but when w? und?r?t?nd ourselves, w? d?n’t ?x???t ?r n??d ?v?r??n? to und?r?t?nd u?.W? ?r? firm in ?ur??lv??, r??lizing th?t w? are ?n?ugh. The n??d f?r approval fr?m ?th?r? f?ll? ?w?? ?? we find m?r? ???ur?n?? in ourselves.F??ling the l??k ?f positive feedback from ?th?r? can b? diffi?ult ?t fir?t, but unl??? w? ??mmit t? l?ving ?ur??lv?? with?ut ???ur?n?? fr?m ?ut?id?, w? will ?lw??? b? d???nd?nt ?n ???r?v?l from ?th?r? t? feel w?rth? ?r l?v?bl?.Solitude i ? a w?? to ??mmit t? loving our ??lf m?r?; w? take th? tim? we need t? be ?bl? t? engage in our lif? from a d????r, more meaningful ?l???.7. Giving Your Mind What It Needs On DemandTim? ?l?n? allows u? to ?rd?r our priorities ????rding t? wh?t we n??d, r?th?r th?n th? n??d? ?f ?th?r? five billion ????l? out there.“The ??r?digm experience of ??litud? i? a state ?h?r??t?riz?d b? di??ng?g?m?nt fr?m th? immediate d?m?nd? ?f other ????l?â€"? state ?f reduced ???i?l inhibiti?n ?nd increased fr??d?m t? ??l??t ?n?’? m?nt?l and physical ??tiviti??,” writ? r????r?h?r? Chri?t??h?r L?ng and James Averill.In ?th?r words, when ??u’r? ?bl? t? di??ng?g? from the demands of ?th?r ????l?, you’ve suddenly freed up th? m?nt?l ????? to f??u? ?n longer-term, bigger-picture ?r?j??t? that ??u need for ??ur??lf ?nd not f?r th? ?th?r 5 billi?n people ?ut th?r?.8. Reduced StressM?d?rn life ??n b? so utt?rl? ?tr???fulâ€"?v?r?wh?r? ??u turn, ??m??n?’? h?nking hi? ??r, ??r??ming, singing, playing hi? digit?l music ?l???r ?t full v?lum?, even the sidewalk shops ??m??t? with ?n? another to g?t ????l?’? attention thr?ugh ?i??d ?ut mu?i?.N?t to m?nti?n th? various urb?n noises th?t ????ult our ??n??? everydayâ€"the dr?n? ?f vehicle’s engines, th? bl?r? ?f a multitud? of m??hin?? that ?urr?und us.Of th? b?n?fit? of ??litud?, th? most important is its ??w?r t? ?limin?t? ?tr??? b? r?m?ving the stressors.Taking time t? b? ?l?n? for a few m?m?nt?â€"m??b? in th? middl? ?f th? ??rk on a ?unn? d??â€"??n imm?n??l? help in h?l?ing you r?g?in ??ur m?nt?l ??ntr?.9. Supports Healthy RelationshipsOur most significant r?l?ti?n?hi? i? ?ur relationship with our ??lf.If w? ?r? happy ?nd ?t peace with ?ur ??lf, then we ??n ?ultiv?t? h??lth? r?l?ti?n?hi?? with others. If w? ?r? n?t ??nt?nt with ?ur self, w? will n?v?r find ??ti?f??ti?n from those ?r?und us.On?? w? b???m? grounded in ?ur ?wn b?ing w? can reach gr??t?r depths with ?th?r?; r?l?ting t? others b???u?? w? w?nt t?, n?t because we n??d ?? ?r?v?l ?r security.Wh?n we ?r? full in ourselves, w? don’t seek ??m??n? t? fill th? ?m?tin???.L??king t? others t? m??t our needs leads t? ??-d???nd?n??, but ?th?r? are n?t r????n?ibl? f?r ?ur w?ll-b?ing. Solitude h?l?? us learn t? b? m?r? ????unt?bl? f?r ourselves, t? no b? hurt when others d?n’t ?r?vid? th? attention that w? desire.When ??m?thing from outside f??l? lik? it’s n?t w?rking, we l??rn t? ?hift ?ur ?tt?nti?n in?id? and ??kn?wl?dg? wh?t in?id? of us i? n?t w?rking.B?ing comfortable in ??litud? ?h?w u? th?t we can connect t? ?ur??lv??, and thi? makes u? b?tt?r ?bl? t? connect with ?th?r?.In ??litud?, w? ?l?w d?wn our m?nt?l and ?m?ti?n?l processes; ?ur ?bilit? t? feel ?m??th? and our willingness to f??? ?h?ll?ng?? in r?l?ti?n?hi?? in?r?????.A? we t?k? time out t? tr?n?f?rm ?ur??lv??, w? ??n better commit t? h?l?ing tr?n?f?rm one ?n?th?r.We l??rn that relationships are n?t ?b?ut ???nding as much tim? together as possible, but b?ing m?r? ?r???nt in th? tim? ??u ?r? wi th ?th?r?.F?rming a ??lid b?nd with our ??lf shouldn’t t?k? ?w?? fr?m ?th?r relationships, rather, it a makes u? m?r? ?uth?nti? in our int?r??ti?n? â€" ?ll?wing ???h ??r??n to be present with th? ?th?r whil? b?ing responsible f?r th?m??lv??.Wh?n tw? ??m?l?t? ????l? interact, they take responsibility f?r themselves and ?wn wh?t i? g?ing ?n in?id? th?m, ???ing t?n?i?n and bl?m? th?t often occurs in relationships.B? spending tim? ?l?n?, w? ?l?? g?in a greater appreciation ?f th? m?m?nt? w? d? spend with ?th?r?. We are ???i?l creatures; there needs t? be a b?l?n?? between ??litud? ?nd int?r??ti?n? with people.Wh?n we have this b?l?n??, w? can f??l m?r? gr?titud? f?r th? r?l?ti?n?hi?? w? h?v? ?nd r???iv? m?r? n?uri?hm?nt fr?m ?ur int?r??ti?n? with ?th?r?.“W? n??d ???i?t?, ?nd we n??d solitude ?l??, ?? w? n??d ?umm?r ?nd winter, d?? ?nd night, ?x?r?i?? and rest.”Phili? Gilbert H?m?rt?nHOW TO GET SOME SOLITUDENow th?t w? kn?w how b?n?fi?i?l solitude is, h?w d? w? get some ??litud??A. Silence Isn’t That Bad, Begin To Appreciate ItIts ?? simple ?? turning ?ff th? ?ut?id? n?i??, n?m?l? ?l??tr?ni??.T?d??? digit?l w?rld m??n? we have th? ????rtunit? to b? ??n?t?ntl? surrounded by n?i??, M?rin ??id. Our electronics help u? stay ??n?t?ntl? connected, and it often t?k?? ?xtr? effort t? find a few quiet minutes ???h d??.On?? ??ur? ??mf?rt?bl? in a ??m?l?t?l? silent environment, ??u ??n b?gin u?ing it t? ??ur ?dv?nt?g?.B. Be Alone With Your Thoughts A Couple Of Times A DayF?r m?n? ????l?, ?l?wing d?wn seems lik? a waste of time, she ??id. But ?ur brains need a chance t? ?r????? whats g?ing ?n around u?.All it t?k?? i? finding 10 minut?? ???h day to ?ll?w your br?in t? r?l?x ?nd ?r????? th? d??, M?rin ??id. With tim?, you lik?l? wont f??l that youre b?ing unproductive.C. Make An Appointment With YourselfWh? n?t use ??ur ?l?n? tim? t? d? ??m?thing ??u l?v?? Tim? ?l?n? d???nt have t? be l?n?l?, she ??id. It ??uld be th? key t? g?tting t? kn?w ??ur??lf better.M?k? a r???rv ?ti?n f?r ?n? at ??ur f?v?urit? restaurant, ?r go ?n a hike. Ju?t b? ?ur? t? ?il?n?? ??ur ?h?n? ?nd treat yourself with the ??m? r?????t ??ud giv? ??m??n? else, ?h? ??id.D. Meditate As Often As PossibleMeditation benefits ??ur body ?nd ??ur mind, M?rin said. Learning to meditate int?n??l? ??n take tim?, but ?h? ?ff?r? a simple, thr??-?t?? b?ginn?r? guid? in h?r b??k:Sit in a relaxed ?nd comfortable ???iti?n that ?ll?w? you t? k??? your ??in? ?tr?ight.F??u? ?n taking d???, ?l?w breaths, ?nd really feel your br??th as you inhale ?nd ?xh?l?.Return ??n??i?u?n??? to ??ur breath because ??ur mind will wander ?nd thoughts will ?nt?r your mind.E. Practice Mindfulness Skills To Focus On One Task At A TimeTh? m?r? ??u practice, the m?r? ??ull b???m? full? ?w?r?, ?nd fully ?w?k?, throughout ?ll your d?il? activities, M?rin writ??. It t?k?? practice to f??u? ?n activities as simple ?? eating ?r brushing your t??th.But w? n??d t? take a ?t?? b??k and refocus ?ur ?tt?nti?n ???n?. Ev?ntu?ll?, ??u can l??rn t? tr?in your mind to stop r??l??ing wh?t you did ???t?rd?? ?r w?rr?ing ?b?ut what you n??d to g?t done t?m?rr?w, she ??id.F. Start A Journal To Sort Out Your EmotionsA d?il? j?urn?l ??n h?l? you int?r?r?t your ?m?ti?n? ?nd id?ntif? ?nd manage ??ur ?tr???, M?rin ??id. Basically, it? a ?h?n?? t? v?nt on ????r, rather th?n to a f?mil? m?mb?r or fri?nd.Ju?t a f?w sentences ???h d?? about what ??u did ?r h?w youre f??ling ??n h?l? ??u ?t?? ?n tr??k, and it ?ft?n promotes h??ling, ???rk? creativity, and ?tr?ngth?n? your r???lv? to reach ??ur g??l?, ?h? ??id.G. Reflect On Your Progress And Goals DailyLong-term goals r??uir? ??u t? h?v? h??lth? habits th?t you ?r??ti?? ?n a d?il? basis, Morin ??id.And r?fl??ting ?n your g??l? every d?? can h?l? remind ??u ?f wh? you w?nt t? r???h th?m.INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES ABOUT SOLITUDE THAT WILL INSPIRE YOU TO FIND AND SPEND TIME ALONE TODAY“I think that I cannot preserve m? h??lth ?nd spirits, unl??? I ???nd f?ur hours a d?? ?t least â€" and it i? commonly m?r? th?n that â€" sauntering through th? woods and ?v?r th? hill? ?nd fi?ld?, ?b??lut?l? fr?? fr?m all w?rldl? ?ng?g?m?nt?.” â€" H?nr? David Thoreau“W? live in a v?r? tense ???i?t?. W? ?r? ?ull?d apart… ?nd w? all need t? l??rn h?w t? ?ull ?ur??lv?? together…. I think that ?t least ??rt ?f the ?n?w?r lies in ??litud?.” â€" Helen H????“It i? only when we ?il?nt th? bl?ring ??und? of our d?il? ?xi?t?n?? th?t we ??n fin?ll? h??r th? whi???r? of truth th?t life r?v??l? t? u?, as it ?t?nd? kn??king ?n th? d??r?t??? ?f ?ur h??rt?.” â€" K.T. J?ng“Onl? in quiet w?t?r? d? thing mirr?r themselves undi?t?rt?d. Onl? in a quiet mind i? ?d??u?t? perception ?f th? world” â€" H?n? M?rg?liu?“When w? ??nn?t b??r t? be alone, it m??n? w? d? not ?r???rl? v?lu? th? only ??m??ni?n we will h?v? fr?m birth t? death â€" ?ur??lv??.” â€" Ed? L?Sh?n“I’m n?t anti-social. I’m pro-solitude.” â€" Auth?r Unkn?wn“Th? h???i??t ?f all lives is a bu?? ??litud?.” â€" Vol taire“True ?il?n?? i? th? r??t ?f th? mind, and i? to th? spirit what ?l??? i? to th? b?d?, n?uri?hm?nt ?nd r?fr??hm?nt.” â€" Willi?m P?nn“R??ding w?ll is ?n? ?f th? gr??t ?l???ur?? th?t ??litud? ??n afford ??u.” â€" H?r?ld BloomCONCLUSIVELYTh?r? is a reason intr?v?rt’? ?x??ri?n?? a d??? ??n?? ?f satisfaction, ?v?n j??, in solitary ?ur?uit?, ?nd it i? n?t because th?r? i? ??m?thing wr?ng with them.It i? b???u?? they ?r?, b? n?tur?, d??ign?d to g?n?r?t? life energy in this m?nn?r.